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2005 (January to May)
Friday, February 18 From Leann who is learning to ride and hubby dearest is trying his hardest to teach: Thank you mama! There is no empty Kmart or Wal-Mart stores around. I guess I just need to be patient. He did drive with me around the neighborhood. I would follow him and then he would follow me. And he said that I need to work on starting and stopping. But never driven a bike before it is very intimidating, for any new biker. It makes me feel better when he rides with me. That way I can learn. The day that I dropped my bike, I was shaken, and he asked me if I wanted him to take it back, to the open parking lot and I told him no, I have to get back on. And I did. He did draw a box and had me stop in the box and he drew x's on the park road and he had me swerving thru them. I guess I just have to have patience with myself and him. He told me if I didn't want him to go with me thru the neighborhood he wouldn't, and I told him that I did want him to go on his bike. If I find a open empty lot, do you suggest for him to take the bike over and I follow in the car, or he ride his bike and I ride mine, if not that far from the house? Also, he drove a bike when he was around 16, so he knows how to drive. Thank you for all the input. I really like this site. I've been reading a lot, and learning. – Leann (note from Mama: ok, it sounds like hubby dearest is making the most effort to check on your comfort level and ask you what YOU WANT. This is good. If an empty lot presents itself, and you're ok with riding over, then do so. Otherwise, say what you need! That's a key ingredient to successful learning. Have you seen the Jitters page yet? If you want to see other letters and understand how NOT ALONE YOU ARE, this is the page! Now, keep thinking about what YOU NEED, and keep being honest about. I predict ultimate success for you . . . there's nothing like a "can do" attitude! Glad to hear my site is helping a bit! ) Dear
VTwin Mama, I made myself "get back on the horse" and ride it home that night. My husband was very apologetic and knew that I just wanted to sit down and cry my eyes out. Imagine having all the mechanics and salesmen having to run out to the road and help pick your bike up. Well since then I've lost all the confidence that I had on the Sportster. I can't handle a right turn without freaking out that I'll end up on the wrong side of the lane in oncoming traffic. A U-turn feels like the most terrifying thing I've ever had to do. I actually dread having to go for a ride!! My husband took me to a parking lot to make me practice all these things and I cried the whole way there!!! What's happening to me? I was doing all these things fine on my other bike. Why can't I handle this one? I was able to ride my husbands Softail and a Heritage Softail before my accident, so I don't think it's the size of the bike. I finally got my dream bike and now I don't want to ride. Will the enjoyment I once had ever come back? I'm not usually a quitter, but I'm really starting to think about it. – Christina Dear
Christina, Now, I know it's hard to erase the little script you've got running in your head about what others think . . . but the bottom line is . . . what do you want? Do you want to be a rider or not? Because if you do, then grit your teeth, steel your backbone, and get on with it. Every new beastie has special handling characteristics to it, and it's your job to LEARN about them. That's right . . .LEARN. Isn't that what life is all about? So, head back to the practice site and keep working on it. You've got your hubby dearest who is standing by you which quite frankly is a lot more than many women have. Use it. So, wipe those tears, say a little prayer, practice some more and remember that some day this oopsie is going to make for a great story around the campfire. Or you're going to help a new rider somewhere down the line understand that stuff happens. Trust me, this is your Mama talking! And I believe in you. – Mama Friday, March 4 For Christina, a rider whose newest bike is giving her concern in her abilities: I just want to give Christina a bit of encouragement. I have two things I would like to share with her: 1. Although not the same as dropping her new bike, I flipped my Jeep a little over two years ago driving during a snow storm. Thankfully, I was unhurt, but my Jeep was totaled. It was a very scary experience. I had a difficult time driving anything in the snow after that without completely freaking out. I kept replaying that day and that accident over and over in my head. I had the opportunity to meet with a hypnotist who was able to help me with it. Among the many things he said during our session, one thing sticks in my head. He told me that it's okay to replay that accident in my mind but to keep in mind what I am seeing in those replays. I am not the person driving the Jeep when it flipped. That is a different person. I am a different me, who has learned from that accident and has changed. That little piece of advice has helped me tremendously. 2. When I first started to ride, I learned with my husband, and started out on a Yamaha TW200. I dropped it a couple of times and was quite embarrassed. Nothing serious, and each time I knew exactly what I did wrong. Thanks to a lot of encouragement from my husband, I never gave up. After a lot of practice my husband let me try out his much bigger, much more powerful BMW R1200C, because he felt I was ready to get a bigger bike and that's the bike I wanted. I did great at first and then a pickup truck was in front of me and I had to brake, and I dropped it. I just panicked. Needless to say I thought I would never try that again. Well, that was probably about 6 months ago, and I now have my own BMW R1200C and have been doing great with it. My husband took me to a school parking lot several times to practice riding my new bike before I went on the road. After that, I slowly started getting used to driving on busier and busier roads. Also, I again remembered what the hypnotist told me and realized that when I replay that incident in my head, it is not me I am watching drop the bike. It is a different person. I am the girl that learned from that mistake and kept trying! Good luck, Christina, and don't give up! – D'Lilah (note from Mama: thank you for sharing! I love the point that once we've gone through an "icky," we are no longer the same person. Learning from the experience is indeed the key and talking it out helps us get past that which goofed us up!) Christina, I just wanted to let you know that you're really not alone. My husband got me a 1200 Custom Sportster for Christmas and I was so excited. I had already took the MSF course and did great and was so ready for my own bike since I always rode on the back of his. Anyway I've been in the Charleston Harley shop a million times with my husband already, so everybody knows me. The day I went to pick up my bike, I took it for a little test spin around the building and needless to say, when I came back up front to where everybody was waiting for me, I dropped the bike right after I stopped. I don't know what it was, but I wanted to die, how embarrassing. But like you I got back up and rode it home. My husband and I went out for a ride a few day later and I dropped it again, this time on an incline, because I wasn't getting the clutch and gas right. This time I tore open the huge scab on my elbow from the first fall (by now I am starting to think I need elbow pad or training wheels.) I've noticed that both times I've dropped it was because I was nervous, now I just concentrate on being relaxed and using the skills I've learned. So keep at, it really is a joy when your riding. Also another good idea is to get the video, Ride like a Pro for Women, it's great, I've been using it and see a great improvement. Feel free to e-mail me at kdkelley@bellsouth.net any time you need support, because I have a few stories to make you laugh about my learning to ride my bike. Good luck and don't quit. – Domenica (note from Mama: sharing similar oopsies go a long way to helping us understand that we truly are not alone . . . thank you for having the heart to share your story! The video you mention is highly recommended by many of my readers and can be found at http://www.ridelikeapro.com. It's good stuff!) To Christina who dropped her new Softail Deuce.....(I was the first of the sales people that came to her rescue that evening). I talked to her to calm her down after it happened. Made sure the gas was off and helped her right her bike. Told her that I had dropped my sweet Greta, a 2001 Lowrider, several times before I learned how to not tipping it over. Christina made a simple mistake of panicking when she stalled her bike. She turned her wheel a bit too far over and it fell. It all takes practice and patience. Lucky for Christina and myself, we both have wonderful husbands and friends that continue to encourage and give confidence to us as we get more and more experience. V-Twin mama's website is great. We have the abundance of knowledge for all sorts of women that ride. Hang in there Christina! Don't give up and the thirll of riding will be so worth it! – Sandy Lattimer in New Port Richey, FL (note from Mama: and there you have it . . . a first-hand witness who knows that stuff happens, and will always happen! Great to hear from you Sandy . . . your words of encouragement are worth everything!) Saturday, March 5 Dear
VTwin Mama, At least my husband had a good attitude about me dropping the bike. He told me that the bike is made of metal and it didn't feel a thing. He was more concerned about me. I had a huge bruse on the palm of my hand from catching myself when I feel. Other than that I was fine. My pride got hurt more. – Susan Lenz Dear
Susan, I am glad to hear that you're basically ok and I love the line about the bike being metal and it didn't feel a thing (!). That's a great way to look at things. If you don't have an engine guard on your bike, this might be something you wish to consider for the future. It makes picking up a bike "that has taken a nap" a little easier and definitely visit my Pick Up the Bike page for sites that show you how picture by picture. You're confidence will soar, especially when you're on solo runs. Now, go buff out that scratch and know that you're in good company . . . been there, done that myself! – Mama Dear
VTwin Mama, I found your email address through the Harley dealership that we went to yesterday in Madison, Wisconsin where I am from. It looks very interesting to me. I hope that I learn some things from it. I am 54 yrs. old, so I am no spring chicken to be learning how to drive a bike but I am still taking the chance. My boyfriend has a Harley and he kids me and says that I have to drive 10 miles behind him because I have a Honda!! – Margie Dear
Marge, It sounds like you're well on your way to becoming a competent rider, so keep practicing and mastering the skills you'll need to become a truly excellent rider. You'll find a wealth of information on this site and I would suggest that you particularly take the time to read letters in the Riding Techniques section, where you'll find sub-topics on just about anything in terms of learning skills. Also look into getting the Ride Like a Pro for the Ladies video, which shows many techniques and is a great way to share with your boyfriend (watching together, you could devise practice sessions with him watching you master the skills). You'll also learn that many women favor non-Harley bikes . . . with as many reasons as women who like Harleys have for choosing that type of bike. While kidding from your boyfriend may be good natured, make sure that you stick to your own game plan for learning to ride . . . and don't let anyone pressure you in any way. Perhaps you would be interested in meeting other women in your area who can form a support team and broaden your "riding buddy" experience. Check my Women's Sites page for a number of excellent women riding organizations with local chapters. You'll be glad you did it! – Mama Dear
VTwin Mama, I've been "riding on the back" for about 2 years, but always loved the freedom and so wanted a new challenge that I decided to do it on my own. Turning 50 in December 2004 was the encouragement - Got my license in early February (MSF Safety Course, have not a clue how I passed because I was so bad!). My family bought me a Harley Sportster Low for my 50th, so I "had" to make it all happen. Thank God for an incredibly supportive husband. We live in a high density area of Miami Beach and all the drivers are insane here - so early every Sunday, we head to a local restaurant parking lot for practice. Have dumped the (brand new) bike twice - once, I just let go of the clutch while still in gear - threw myself and ran over the poor, patient husband - but he still managed a smile. I've just now graduated to the streets, it's fun but scary. It's Sunday morning and I am sitting here in my pj's, nervous as a cat thinking about today's ride - I am supposed to go to the gas station for practice and out of necessity. I am terrified that I will run through a red light, hit a car or two (maybe a bus) and of course run into the gas pump causing a major explosion (doesn't everyone do that at the first gas station visit?). Ever so patient husband is deservedly sleeping in and I am torn between letting him rest so that we "have to" cancel today's adventure (once the nutcases take over our roads, it's unsafe at any speed) or just getting dressed, taking the bike down the 2 ramps and through the gate of the garage by myself (another phobia, I have to wave a little keyfob at the gate to open it...how the heck do I do that and hold the clutch?) to conquer my fears. We'll see.... By the way, has anyone had a problem with shifting to neutral, esp on a new bike or maybe on a Sportster 883? It's nearly impossible to do when the bike is running, less of a problem but still not easy when it's off. Even my husband agrees it doesn't seem right. Nervously yours, – Shaky from South Beach Dear
Shaky, I'm getting from your letter that you've got "run away bike" syndrome thoughts! Meaning that you feel in a situation that feels out of control (red lights, other vehicles, gas station pumps), that you won't be able to reign in the power of the bike with a degree of control. So, let's look at that. What's the quickest way to stop the bike? Pull in the clutch lever, thus disengaging the engine (keep that lever pulled in) and using a combination of front and rear brake (smoothly together) slow to stop, and then at the stop, keep clutch and front brake levers pulled in while both feet go down for balanced stop. Now you can take a deep breath, shift the bike into first gear, and continue on your pathway. Perhaps you would like to go back to your practice field to specifically practice this so that you learn exactly how quickly you can do this with confidence and how much pavement you need to get the bike to a complete stop. Knowing how much "room" you need will be a big confidence booster. Consider using markers so that you can see where you started your quick stop technique and how long it really takes. Mark the stop point. Then try again and keep trying to tighten up that distance you need for a quick, controlled stop. As to your question about shifting to neutral on the 883, why not contact my VTwin Mama Mentor Tara, who has an 883. She might have some insights for you. Her email is hdmom220@aol.com. Good luck on your continuing adventure. And always remember, your gut instinct is a good thing! – Mama Tuesday, April 19 For Shaky who has graduated to street riding and worried about hitting things: I have a HD 883 and I agree with "Shaky" that "finding" neutral can be a challenge. The error I make is popping the shifter beyond neutral into second gear. Then when I put it back in first and try again (sometimes repeatedly) it locks up and won't move at all without letting the clutch out and letting the bike move forward slightly (hard to do if parking in the garage!) I'd be very interested to learn ways to stop at neutral. Kudos to "Shaky" for continuing to ride, despite the scary aspects. As another beginner, I sympathize, it feels like there are a lot of things to accomplish simultaneously. Here's my confession: several years ago, I ran a Kawasaki motorcycle into the ditch while turning at an intersection. In retrospect, there were too many tasks to do in a short time, and though I'd just passed the motorcycle safety course, I wasn't ready to be riding that aggressively on that big of a bike. I waited a couple of years, and just last month bought a HD 883, with a Voyager trike conversion unit. I'm sometimes embarrassed when the guys call it training wheels, but it is allowing me to learn the gearing, working the clutch and throttle, using both brakes and all the other things that experienced riders do without even thinking. Because the Voyager kit changes steering radically, I don't know if I'll ever take it off and ride on two wheels. What seems important right now is that I'm riding again, and conquering fears like riding in traffic, riding at highway speeds, making the bike stop quickly and so on. Anyway, best of luck to "Shaky," I think it's awesome you're learning to ride. (And, hey, 50 is a good age to start. I'm 48 which is about the same age.) You'll be burning up the streets in Miami Beach in no time. – Trike Rider (note from Mama: heck, even I miss neutral once in awhile, and I've been riding since 1979! Still, the 883 seems to be a bit stiff in the clutch. Thanks for your additional words of support and kudos to you for seeking a solution that allows you to continue riding and learning. The next time someone makes the training wheel remark just give them a saucy smile and tell them, "yah, well, at least I haven't given up!" Then smile brightly and keep going!) Hi Shaky, I too am in the learning stage of riding and had a good laugh reading your e-mail regarding running over your hubby, and crashing into the gas pumps because that's exactly how I feel!! As to your question about your Sporty, I have the same bike and I am having the same problem with the neutral while the bike is running. Apparently, it is a Sportster "thing"!! I took my bike to two Harley dealers and they told me the same thing, the Sportster do that until well past their "breaking in stage" and some always stay that way. I was told the trick is to slowly click it only half way instead of one full shift up while coming to a stop or try rolling it backwards and forwards while stopped. Good luck and let me know how you do as I am still having a hard time coming up with the courage to even drive my bike!!! Scared out of my wits! – LeeAnne in Edmonton, Alberta, Canada (note from Mama: thanks for chiming in about the shifting thing and what you found out. On your own dilemma of courage, may I be so bold as to suggest that you might benefit from taking a riding course again or seeking private instruction so that you receive additional practice under the trained eye of a professional? Many women report that the second time around a class they were able to concentrate on their technique much more. Just a thought.) Dear
VTwin Mama, My husband and I took my bike to an empty parking lot thinking I would have no problems getting on it and feeling out the clutch and what not. As soon as I started that bike and put it in 1st gear I froze, absolutely panicked!!! I don't know what to do and now I am really doubting myself and whether I will be able to ride that bike. How do I overcome my sudden fear????? – Scared out of my wits! Dear
Scared, Fear not! Further explore your gut reaction and be honest enough to share with your husband why you felt you froze. I'm thinking that once you've taken the motorcycle course you'll be in better shape. If the course is still a while off, then depending on what really froze you, here are a few pointers. If it was the pavement, then take the dirt bike for a spin around your practice lot, then try the Sporty again. If your worry is damaging the bike, pad the tank, fenders and such (but not the exhaust pipes!). If it's the power, have your husband ride it in the practice lot for you so you can get a sense of how fast the bike moves in first gear, etc. This visual will allow you to better gauge how the bike will be when you're on it. Try these suggestions and I'm hoping that it will allow you to continue to move forward (!). – Mama Wednesday, April 20 More for Shaky who has graduated to street riding and worried about hitting things: I have an '05 1200 Sportster Custom that I bought in August. I've got about 5000 miles on it and I've noticed that as I put more miles on it, neutral has become much easier to find. Maybe Shaky's gearbox just needs time to loosen up a bit? – Laura (note from Mama: there appears to be some consensus on this view! Thanks for sharing.) I'm glad you're back on-line. Hope you're getting settled into your new place. (yes, I am, thank you!) My hubby taught me a little trick to find neutral. Use your hand! For some reason, it's a lot easier to find neutral with your hand. Just switch off the engine leaving it in 1st gear then reach down with your hand and pull up into neutral. Roll the bike back and forward a little if it's stubborn. Give it a try, you'll be surprised. – Joyce (note from Mama: heck, I've done this with the bike running on a flat surface when I know I needed to idle for awhile in traffic . . . of course that was my '76 HD which tended to heated up quickly in hot weather and long delays, and the gear box just didn't do what I wanted! Sigh.) Wednesday, April 20 Dear
VTwin Mama, Dear
Linda C., Linda and I both like this line from our first "encounter" together: DO NOT LET THE DREAM DIE INSIDE OF YOU. Go, go, go . . . and find your bliss. It's there . . . please make sure you reach for it . . . – Mama Thursday, April 21 More for Scared who froze when getting on her new 883 LowRider: At 50 years old, I took my beginners class without ever even being on a motorcycle before. At the start of the class I wasn’t able to tell the difference between a clutch, choke or throttle. The class was informative and helpful, but because of my inexperience I laid my training bike on a fast stop and at one point accidentally rolled the throttle too far back and took off – and I panicked because I couldn’t remember what I was suppose to do because there were so many things to remember for someone who had spent only 1 hour on a motorcycle. And the next day during the test, laid my bike on another fast stop - because the instructors had failed to tell me about the 4 ‘paws’ rule - thereby disqualifying me. But I was determined. I bought a used Rebel 250 to practice on and I practiced every spare moment. About a month later, I took the class again with instructors who were more helpful, informative and passed the test. But, I was glad I was able to practice on
a not brand new motorcycle because I would have always been worried about
doing damage to my bike. I spent another 3 months on that Rebel until I
got my confidence level up and a few more actual hours on the road. And
fulfilled my dream of owning my own Harley – a' 05 Sportster 1200C.
Not the biggest, not the heaviest, but just about right for my level. It
has taken a good 400 miles to learn how she really feels and reacts and
responds. So, be patient with yourself, like Mama said figure out what panicked you, but don’t give up. Every ride – whether it is a 2 mile or 20 mile, is a learning experience from which I walk away with knowledge and experience I didn’t have before I started. – Wild Annie (note from Mama: this is a frank, level-headed view of the trials and tribulations of learning to ride . . . applicable to many new riders. Thanks for sharing your own journey!) Don’t ever stop being scared – it pumps your blood a little faster, starts the adrenaline running and makes you much more aware of your surroundings. These are good things – make them work for you. I started riding a little over 13 months ago on a ’82 Honda Magna 750 and graduated to my Honda Valkyrie “Mercedes” in January. I’ve got a whole 8500 miles under my belt since I was a brand-new novice, dropped each bike once and I still get nervous when I swing a leg over this beast. It’s when you get complacent that things happen without you noticing or reacting quickly enough. Start slow, gal! Get on, start it up (feel that lovely vibration – not that any of us women enjoy that! LOL), keep your feet lightly on the ground, put it into gear and use that clutch to just roll you forward a little ways, then brake. Repeat often, backing up or push turning it if you run out of space & keep it up until you feel comfortable enough to pick up your feet & let the bike take you with it. Baby steps until you are ready! That’s what they will do with you in the MSF. I needed it – I had never ridden solo until that class. When they first told me to put my feet up on the pegs, I flat out refused! I was WAY too scared! I managed to do it the next time though, and by the end of the class had an excitement developing down inside me that has grown stronger and stronger with each ride. I love riding & you will too – just take it at your own speed; even if that is a snail’s pace! Best of luck, girl & let us know your progress and ultimate success! – Amy in Washington (note from Mama: I know I psyched myself out in the beginning and then took a deep breath and planned very small steps to get started. Sage advice!) Dear
VTwin Mama, Dear
Roz, Wednesday, April 27 I think that the neutral problem is a Sporty thing. I have an 883 L and I find it much easier to gear up into second, then half click down into neutral. I also wanted to let her know that she isn't alone with thoughts of disaster around every corner. I actually purchased a gas can so I wouldn't have to ride to the gas station. The only one around here is on a very busy road and the only way to get home from there is to do a u-turn at a light. Good Luck, – Catherine (note from Mama: thanks for sharing your shift to neutral tip and offering an alternative to gassing up for new riders who still aren't sure about pulling up to the pumps.) Thursday, April 28 For Marge whose boyfriend kids her about the pecking order for Harleys and Hondas: Marge said her boy friend wanted her to ride way in back of his Harley as she is on a Honda. Well, she should not feel that way, she is just as good as the Harley. This is not about the "kind" of motorcycle - it is about 2 wheels and enjoying the ride. When I rode with the Harley group, I had to ride my Honda Pacific Coast . . . some poo-pooed it, but my ride was just as good as theirs . . . probably better. This a good Mama -- keep your column going! – Joyce in Stanton (note from Mama: even in jest, those kind of comments can be hurtful, especially if a rider's confidence level is wavering a bit. Let's keep our heads held high no matter what make/model we're riding . . . and show them how it's done!) Saturday, April 30 For Roz, whose new Honda Shadow 750 is inducing the jitters: I am not even going to try to tell you what you should do, just about MY experience with the Honda Shadow. I bought one immediately after I took the Beginners Riding Course. I had NO experience on a bike, but sat on the Shadow and it seemed to fit me. I'm 5 ft short and could flat-foot it. The dealership wouldn't let me try it out (imagine that), but I bought it anyway. My husband picked it up and brought it home and I rode 10 feet and absolutely hated that bike! It felt SO top-heavy to me! I tried several times on different days in an empty parking lot to get the feel of the bike and finally gave up and sold it (loosing $1,000 in the deal). I bought a 250 Rebel, practiced, practiced, practiced and when my wonderful hubby brought me my 2000 V Star 650 Classic I got on her and never looked back. Well, nearly never . . . . but I've put over 17,000 miles on her since Valentines Day 2003 and do not intend to "move up". Of course the beginner lady I sold the Shadow to loved it and did great on it so - go figure?? Before completely giving up riding you might try a smaller bike before going back to your Shadow, or see if you can ride other bikes and see if they're a better "fit". I wish you much success whatever you do - trust me - if I can do it (major chicken at 43) YOU CAN DO IT!!! – Donna (note from Mama: yes, it's amazing how one bike can "fit" a rider but not another, so sometimes it's a matter of looking more in-depth at to what is holding a person back. Honesty with oneself is the key! Thanks for sharing how you progressed through this all!) Dear
VTwin Mama, A note to Scared: the 883 may be a "little" Harley but it is a pretty powerful machine - a huge leap from the Rebel I rode in the MSF class. Even my husband, who has the big Harley Ultra is in awe of the Sporty's power (he rode my bike from the dealer to our home). The more we ride it the better we'll get, I'm sure. Let's both commit to keep with it! With best wishes for safe and fun riding, – Less Shaky Every Day (formerly Shaky!) Dear
Less Shaky, I've always thought that the reason people write to the VTwin Mama site is that it feels good to tell "someone" how it's going (good or bad) but I'll keep in mind that in a way, it's a form of journaling also! So, let's keep telling each other what's up and we'll get our ya-ya's out! My suggestion on the electric gate is this: when you stop, shift to neutral so you only need one hand to apply the brake and the other is free from the clutch lever to use the key fob. Same goes for toll booths. Depending on your riding jacket, you may wish to attach your keys/key fob so that it can be clicked onto a ring in the inner pocket on your left side and pulled out on a chain to activate (then the chain retracts into the holder, back for pocket storage). Or maybe have a handy pouch on your handlebar to secure your keys for easier access. I'm soooo proud of you Less Shaky . . . small steps will get you the confidence and skills you'll need for the long haul! – Mama Sunday, May 1 For Kathy who found a humorous way to handle oofs: I would like to say Bravo Kathy! for the remark she made during her rider course. Damn that was good! More for Marge whose boyfriend kids her about the pecking order for Harleys and Hondas: Also, regarding Marge with the SO that wants her Honda way behind his Harley, I hope that's just a joke made in passing. We were told in the rider course that two bikes in formation tend to look bulkier, and two headlights in close proximity is easier for other motorists to see, kind of like a car. (!) A group of staggered bikes is even more obvious. Then there's the situation where one bike goes through an intersection and a left turner tries to squeak in a turn before the second bike goes through. If this guy was serious, he obviously has little or no concern for his SO's safety, and no common sense IMHO. Driving, like riding a motorcycle, is a privilege, not a right, and those with little common sense have no business being on the road in control of ANY vehicle. If I'm putting along having a good ol' time and I get too far back from my husband, he bugs me about it. I get irritated, but I know he has my best interest at heart. We RIDERS have to look out for each other and egotistical games have no place out there on the road. Come on guys, grow up already. Respect goes both ways. – Linda C. (note from Mama: you've reminded us of serious points why riders shouldn't be too far apart at any time . . . thanks!) Dear
VTwin Mama, I'm a 26 year old newbie sport rider. I learned many years ago on dirt bikes, and am having trouble making the transition to street bikes. Though I already took the RiderEd course and passed with flying colors, I'm still a bit intimidated by the insanity of other drivers here in New Jersey. I really want a Sport Bike, but I continually find that I'm just too damn short at 5'2". I currently own a Ninja 250, which still doesn't meet my comfort demand and I've already had the seat shaved. Frequently, I'm tippy-toeing it backwards or planning my stops around a road lump. The height makes me continually nervous -- scared that I'll make that one little mistake and end up on the ground in front of some jerk preoccupied with an illegal cellphone call. Nervousness is the last thing that should be happening on a motorcycle -- for all sorts of reasons and I can't help thinking, "is this normal?" On a shorter bike, I know I can maneuver out of harm's way, but as it stands -- well, it doesn't. On a track, I'm sure I'd kick ass, but on the road with uneducated jerks, I fall "short." I've perused the list for short riders and though it's encouraging, I'm still overwhelmed. I haven't been able to find a riding partner here which makes matters worse. It seems that there are no other female riders in my area or the meeting place is too far away. I haven't spent much time on the highways as I would really prefer the safety of numbers and companionship of a comrade -- so I really should have more experience by now than I do. How do I get through these challenges? I'm determined to be comfortable on the road and on a bike that I like. Can you help? Thanks. – Beginning Rider Dear
Beginning Rider, First, did you know that the Ninja 250 could be lowered?! Yes, it's true, true, true! Head over to the Adjustment Tech website and you'll get help! This information came to my attention from readers of this site (input from readers is sooooo important!). Ok, traffic ickies. For a new rider, yes, traffic and knowing that cage drivers can be idiots can be overwhelming. Hopefully the first suggestion will help with your comfort level. I usually suggest that learning to handle traffic should be done in steps . . . starting with early Sunday morning rides, when traffic is low, to gently stepping up to heavier traffic, but along routes you know like the back of your hand. I also think that if you focus on the negative, you'll scare yourself silly! Many readers have noted that a certain amount of healthy concern is good (it keeps you on your toes), but overly concentrating on negative thoughts isn't the best. Envision a ride along a route that you know and see yourself having a safe, enjoyable ride. Make it with a "treat" at the end . . . maybe a favorite restaurant or ice cream shop! Now, for finding other riders. Have you checked my Women's Sites page for women's riding organizations? Even if the meeting place is too far away for you right now, get in contact as some members may be located near you and be happy to ride with you one-on-one locally. On that same page you'll also find specific sites for women sporty riders and you may want to check those out as well . . . they have their own discussion forums, etc. and you may find kindred spirits there! Chin up beginning rider, you CAN DO IT . . . so keep working on it and one day you'll look back and know it was all worth it! – Mama Sunday, May 1 More for Marge whose boyfriend kids her about the pecking order for Harleys and Hondas: I understand. Been there a lot. But ya know what? Found a real man that I married last spring. Yep, he rides a Harley, he has his tattoos, and I have mine. Yes, we even find there are dozens of rallies and charity events we can go to together without that kind of c$^*((&p. And having me there when his bike breaks down is certainly handy for him. I'm the mechanic in this family. Keep your chin up, Doll. FTW means Feel The Wind. – Mary Martin-Gay (note from Mama: thanks for the reminder that many "mixed bike" couples (!) ride successfully together all the time!) Monday, May 2 For Less Shaky who is facing her challenges head on and winning: Wow!...and congratulations to Less Shaky! Her original letter and the one posted Sat., April 30 brought tears to my eyes! And, Mama, what a great web site VTM is! (thanks!) I've been reading it every day since I found it and am learning lots from all the riding women. Yesterday was my first group ride of any distance on my 883 Sportster with the Voyager (trike) kit. We rode to the coast and I muscled her through a lot of curvy roads! The two wheelers really run away from me on the corners, but it's getting easier to look through the corners and power through. I am still anxious on blind spots -- the trike's maneuverability is a lot different than the two-wheelers. I also learned that the Sportster prefers the expensive premium gas! We had nine bikes in our group yesterday including three women riders, plus there were two ladies riding pillion with their husbands. It was about a two hundred mile day, and we plan a ride over Memorial Day weekend that includes a couple of 350 mile days. – Trike Rider (note from Mama: thanks for letting Less Shaky know you recognize the learning curve she is going through and can empathize with her! Congrats on your own first group ride and continuing to learn how your own bike handles . . . that's what it is gals . . . even experienced riders are continually learning and growing as riders . . . that's part of the magic and adventure!) Dear
VTwin Mama, Well the whole way home I had to listen to him tell me all the negatives on the bike. Now, as soon as we unloaded it, he took off on it and came back with a huge smile, but kept warning me of how powerful the bike was. So by this point I am starting to get scared of it. Then my husband comes home and is extremely mad because I bought the bike, not necessarily due to the type or anything, just mad because I bought "a" bike. Not with his money now, but with my own money. Well anyway, I had been very excited to have a bigger bike and couldn't wait to send you a picture of it. Now I am so sick at my stomach over the entire thing that today I listed it in the paper for sale. He can be very controlling at times . . . as in my bike riding, he demands that I ride by myself with no other men anywhere near me. Others I have spoke with tell me they can understand his view point. I am not writing this to bash him. I just feel that all the fun of riding is being sucked out of me. Well, thanks for listening, this site and the other readers are such a help and comfort. Isn't it strange how we can feel so close to total strangers and find so much in common with each other? – M. Dear
M., Your brother-in-law's warning seems to have been straightforward . . . and I always warn that a "new" beastie requires new practice sessions in an empty lot somewhere so you can learn the characteristics of the bike in a safe environment (especially for newer riders, but not such a bad idea even for seasoned ones!). I myself took a borrowed bike out for 1,000 miles locally before heading on a longer 5 day run . . . and thank goodness I did! That downshift from 3rd to 2nd was a WHOLE lot different than the bike I normally rode. Without bashing your husband, as you can imagine, I share your disappointment in his response to your clearly independent choice. It's sad to know that some people simply cannot find the means to support you on such a happy occasion. However, you need to take responsibility for your response to his negativity. Ann Landers used to say that no one can take advantage of you if you don't let them. Although you've got that bike listed for sale, why not ride it while you've got it?! If you need help, contact the women riders in your area if you belong to a woman's riding organization, and if you don't belong to a chapter, JOIN NOW. AND I DO MEAN NOW! Visit the Motor Maids, Women on Wheels, and/or Women In The Wind sites and find their local chapters. And even if they meet farther away from where you live, STILL CONTACT THEM, as some of their members are probably riding somewhere near you on a regular basis. If anyone has the balls to tell you that it's "just a bunch of women," then you look straight at them and say, "well, I'm one too." 10% of the riding community nationwide is nothing to sneeze at. GO, GO, GO! I expect to see a picture of you on some bike with other women riders pretty darn soon. DO IT! – Mama Friday, May 6 For M. whose husband didn't like her buying a bike on her own: I saw the letter about your husband being mad you bought a bike, maybe you need to remind him of the times he buys things without getting "permission." I'd be willing to bet he doesn't call you each time he wants to buy something. My husband laughingly calls my bike "garage art" when he walks by it (he doesn't ride) but if I have no one to ride with, he will follow me in his pickup so we can be together on ride breaks. Any marriage requires sharing, but each partner needs space to grow on their own. Obviously your husband is insecure and afraid you will outgrow him. Reassure him you'll be home after the ride, and keep your bike. I've been married for 37 years and at times each of us has needed space, he fishes and I ride. Riding a bike won't make you "run around" on your hubby, but his controlling you might make you run away. – Squaw Baby (note from Mama: as I've never been married before, and only have two dogs who think everything I do is great, I admit that I can be timid on offering advice of this nature. Thanks for taking a direct line approach to the situation and sharing your own first-hand knowledge. ) Saturday, May 7 Dear
VTwin Mama, Now my bike is almost paid for and I feel I have nothing to lose, so I really want to get on it and go. But how do you learn to ride if you know nothing about the gears and all? I don't want them to teach me in case I do something stupid . . . and they don't teach. . . they scream really loud! Also, I am a large woman. Are there many fuller figured riders? I have also considered purchasing a trike adapter kit. Do they make those for a 2003 Kawasaki Drifter? Anyone with any answers or any help, please feel free to email me at amandastewart_daltonga@yahoo.com. Thanks so much! – Amanda Stewart Dear
Amanda, First, have you ever driven a clutch car? If you have, then you already know the basics, it's just that the clutch pedal on a car is now a clutch lever on the left end of the handlebar. And the shifter in a car is now a clutch shift pedal at your left foot. Also, you have two brakes, the front and rear. The control on the right handlebar is your front brake (and that's were the throttle is also) and the rear brake is at your right foot. With this information, I remember with my first bike, I sat in my living room and pretended I was riding. I imagined different traffic scenarios (stopping, starting from neutral, etc.) and actually practiced the sequence of clutch, shift, brake, etc. Then I ventured out! You would do well to sign up for a motorcycle riding course in your area. Check with your local community college, local motorcycle dealerships, and the Yellow Pages for options. Make sure you understand that a motorcycle safety course is designed to teach safety, but also will teach beginning riders . . . but that is not their primary goal. Also, you might want to ask about the availability for private instruction at the same time if you think this might meet your needs more comfortably. If you've never driven a car with clutch, I'd find a friend with one and get some lessons (it's easier to learn the coordination on four wheels rather than two!). Now, that Vulcan Drifter is either an 800cc or 1500cc bike, both which are powerful engines. Definitely take those first steps before venturing out on this bike! Also, the bike has sat for quite some time. Unless you (or someone) has been starting that bike and running it in some way, it's almost certain it's going to need some work. I'd get those fireman friends of yours over to get the bike in shape. They'll know what needs to be done! As to being a fuller figured woman, oh, you are SO NOT ALONE! You'll find every size and shape of woman riding her own bike! Please take the time to invest in proper riding gear (and yes, gear is available for larger women). This means good riding boots, a proper riding jacket, riding gloves, a DOT approved helmet, and eyewear if you don't get a helmet with face shield. For many reasons, there are people who ride a trike. Please take a look at my Trike Page and you'll find previous postings on the subject and company websites that offer conversion kits. You're beginning a wonderful, new chapter in your life Amanda and the challenge is worth it! Now, draw up a "battle" plan that you think will get you started on your adventure "your way." – Mama Sunday, May 8 Dear
VTwin Mama, I took the MSF coarse in February and had already purchased my new Sporty L before the course (cart before the horse so to speak). I did great getting it to a friend's place to have him tow it home for me. The NEXT DAY I went out and took a turn too wide and hit the curb. Needless to say the bike came down on top of me, pinning me to the curb (minimal damage to me and the bike, causing me to learn techniques on picking up the bike and finding your website). I have been grounded to the neighborhood since from hubby (who doesn't ride) and wanted to let other women out there know that with a few private lesson's from my rider's edge instructor (yes they will do that) and a whole lot of time following my husband and family in the car, I have finally combated the fear instilled in me from the 'crash' ( I could no longer turn from a stop) and nailed my first solo ride. Only 50 miles or so but still a huge mile marker for me. Thank You for this website, I really think that if I had not had the opportunity to read about other women having the same fears and problems, I would have sold the bike back to the dealership. I can relate with the fear and humiliation . . . but the outcome is so worth it. The disbelief the old schooler's have at the sight of me getting onto my own iron horse is well worth it. Thank You VTwin Mama. I am a fan for life. – Newbie Rider Dear
Newbie Rider, Well fan for life (!), just by writing this letter, you've become part of why this site is soooo fabulous (!), if I do say so myself! Someone down the line is going to read your letter and say, "yes, I can do it too." And that's worth its weight in gold! Email a picture of you and your bike sometime . . . we'd love to "see" you! – Mama For M. Wright whose husband is exhibiting controlling behavior: Hi M., boy do I know where you're at! My boyfriend had been extremely unsupportive about the prospect of my having my own ride since the first time I mentioned it several years ago. All I heard is that I wouldn't be able to do it, blah, blah, blah. He was shocked when I took the MSF course without telling him until a couple of nights before (blaming some women that I know), but he just figured I would fail, which I didn't. When I went out and bought a used Intruder VS800 a few weeks later without his advice (he wouldn't help me, so I asked some friends for help picking one out), he was absolutely furious and went out and ripped the passenger seat off of his bike. I had that sick feeling in my stomach too...secretly, I worried that maybe he was right..the new bike was big and scary and mine. The first time I tried to take it out by myself I dropped it at the end of the driveway (touched off a controversy here on VTwin Mama over whether or not you should ride a bike you can't pick up yourself!). I felt like such an idiot, although I received a lot of encouragement from VTwin Mama and some of the other women on this site. All winter long I went back and forth with myself whether I should just sell the damned thing and go back to riding on the back. I felt foolish for even thinking about riding on my own, and started to believe that I just wasn't coordinated enough or whatever it takes...I just didn't have it. Somehow, though, I couldn't quite bring myself to sell it, even though I was really nervous (no, downright scared!) about trying again in the spring. Not only had it been 6 months since I took the MSF class (which was the only time I'd ever driven a motorcycle), but the only time after that I had failed! Many days I wondered why I still had the whole riding thing in my head, but it just wouldn't leave! I'm so grateful for the letters from women on this site, many of whom have grappled with the same fears and insecurites. In the meantime, my boyfriend did a 180. I guess he resigned himself to the fact that the issue just wasn't going to go away (I think even his friends thought he was being a jerk). Now he's pressuring me in the other direction!!!! He wanted me to buy a new bike (of his recommendation) and even went looking for them with me. I considered it, but I had a perfectly good motorcycle in the garage that I like! Plus I just didn't want to spend the money! Well, I made him drive the motorcycle to a parking lot near here (I am just n-o-t ready for any public roads yet) and I road around in the parking lot for almost an hour. I did the biggest figure 8's you've ever seen, goosed the throttle, shifted at the wrong times, but I don't care...I did it, and I didn't drop the bike! And I did better at the end of the hour than at the beginning of the hour. And I did it all in front of him (not to mention some guy playing basketball)! I still don't feel ready for the road, but I know I will get there (that is if the weather in the northeast ever cooperates!). I've learned some things about myself, and my relationship with my boyfriend. I've learned that the most important person to convince that I can do this (or anything else) is myself. I've learned that I can push the boundaries of our relationship to meet my needs, and that it is strong enough to take it (I think worrying that this may not be the case is where the sick-to-your stomach feeling comes from). I've learned that my boyfriend can learn to support me (there were times of doubt!), and grow in himself as well. What I'm trying to offer you is encouragement to listen to your own instincts. You saw that new bike and felt you were ready for it. By sticking to your vision (not your brother in laws or your husbands ) and conquering your fears, you will become a stronger person. Whether or not your husband comes around is his own choice, but the energy you create can have amazing results! I hope no one buys your bike right away, so you have a chance to calm down a little bit and try it out! As for your husband, maybe he will mellow and become proud of you for sticking to your guns! If he doesn't, well, you'll be strong enough to deal with that too! I hope if all works out...please write again and let us know how things turn out. P.S. I thought that Squaw Baby's words were very wise. – Susan (note from Mama: I think this is my favorite part of the VTwin Mama site . . . when a reader writes in to offer encouragement from first-hand experience (no, I don't know it all!) to another writer facing a similar dilemma. WOW, that's powerful acknowledgment of who we are collectively. Susan, I am so proud of you and M., gather your strength and dig in those heels!) Monday, May 9 Dear
VTwin Mama, Dear
Amy, Tuesday, May 10 More for M. Wright whose husband is exhibiting controlling behavior about her riding: Hello! I just want to say what a great site you have. I have a 2003 Suzuki Volusia and I have logged about 2200 miles in my first year, with just weekend riding. My husband bought a 1997 Vulcan Classic 1500 in the spring of 2004, and I rode behind him for the first 6 months. And then as much as I liked riding with him – I found myself actually dozing off, and hiding behind his helmet to keep out of the wind. SO, I told him I loved to ride, but riding behind him was boring, and I wanted to learn to ride, and get my own bike. He really seemed hurt that I didn’t want to ride behind him anymore. I think he had this image of him in the front and me in the back – forever! And he was really concerned about my ability, as I had a large benign brain tumor removed in 2001, and I am now deaf on my left side, and my balance is weird. So
initially he sort of didn’t take me seriously, and thought I would lose the
urge… but then I found my bike – a 2003 Suzuki Volusia for sale near my
home. I told him I wanted to go see it, and he said sure. I think he
thought it was so big, I would back out! But it only had 800 miles
on it, was in mint condition, and had these awesome, big loud chrome pipes on
it! A woman owned it, but lost interest really fast and wanted to get
rid of it. So I told my husband I wanted it – right then.
Luckily I have a good job, and when I decide I want something – he knows he
can’t argue with me. He thought I was being impulsive, as I hadn’t
even learned to ride yet, but I insisted so we took it home. But – he
told me he wouldn’t let me ride it, until I got my license. So, then I
signed up for my motorcycle class. My first round in class was a disaster – I had an instructor who really had no patience to teach a woman rider – as I had no riding experience, except behind my husband. I took the class in late August, and it had to be about 110 degrees on the pavement when we were out there. So after the first afternoon of riding – my instructor told me he didn’t think I could cut it, and I could ask for a refund or try again later. I was so hot, and frustrated and angry with this instructor, I said “That’s Fine!” and left. And then I cried all the way home, because I didn’t want to face my husband. But I waited about a month (late Sept was much cooler!) did some practicing on my brother-in-laws dirt bike, and then I went back and tried again. This time I passed with flying colors! This had to be one of my most prized accomplishments! Ranked right up their with having my daughter and marrying my husband. After I got my license – by this time my motorcycle had sat in the garage for about 4 months, my husband took me and my bike over to the high school parking lot, and let me loose on it. I was so nervous when I first rolled that throttle, but I rode it for about an hour or so, just enough to get past my nerves, and I have been loving every minute since. I am still very cautious, as I have had the bike fall over three times now. Each time is has been while negotiating a turn into a driveway, at too slow a speed. Me and my bike have escaped with only a few scratches, and my husband just smiles, shakes his head, and helps me pick up my bike!! I haven’t figured out how to get the monster up by myself yet! But he says he’s proud of me because I always climb back on. So
even tho he really didn’t want me to ride in the beginning – we have had
the most fun ever this past year, riding together. He loves to plan our
weekend trips, and he let’s me lead so I don’t ride over my head trying to
stay up with him. We live in So
– my advice to any ladies out there who think they want to ride – is just
DO IT!! And don’t give up too quickly. Being a good rider takes lots
of practice! Don’t let your fear hold you back. Just be careful and
patient, and the more miles you go, the better it gets. This has really
been a boost to me and my husband as we now have a hobby that we both love,
and we do it together. We are trying to figure out how we can retire
early, so we can have more time to ride!! Thursday, May 19 More for Roz, whose new Honda Shadow 750 is inducing the jitters: Roz…how I KNOW how you feel…but you need to get on that horse. You need to "feel the fear and do it anyway". (There's a book by that exact title, if it helps) I recently passed my motorcycle test and went on a course that scared the poop out of me. I couldn't go as fast as the other students in the class and was let go for special training. How embarrassing. Yet, I needed the extra tutelage, apparently. Clearly so and danged well worth it. I have had an accident however…came out of it just fine with a fairly bruised ego. Harley's don't like to swim, I understand. I went sliding front faced in my leathers across 5 lanes of highway during rush hour and escaped all. $1,000 deductible and my 2004 Superglide will be back on the road shortly BUT I PLAN TO GET BACK IN THAT SADDLE. It's gonna be hard. I'll have to work at some mind games but I know I have to do it. You can do it too. I turn 49 years old this year. Hope this helps! – Kathy (note from Mama: whew, glad to hear you're ok Kathy! Thanks for letting Roz know she's NOT ALONE.) Dear
VTwin Mama, Anyways, now that I already dropped my bike my nervousness had subsided and I actually took it out on it's first maiden voyage last Sunday.... I CAN'T TELL YOU HOW GOOD IT FELT!! I also went to my Harley dealer and bought new chrome foot pegs so I won't have to worry about my feet getting caught next time!! Thanks again! – LeeAnne Taggart (formerly Scared to Death) Dear
LeeAnne, As to the weight of that bike: consider working with free weights to build up that arm strength and definitely visit my Pick Up the Bike page . . . so you can depend on yourself to take care of business if the bike decides to take a nap again. You wouldn't believe what a confidence booster this is, even if you never need to use it . . . although you never know when you'll meet another new rider who could use help! – Mama Friday, May 20 For LeeAnne who is past her jitters and taking those first riding steps: Thank you for your post. I too, passed my MSF course on May 8. I took delivery of my new Sportster on May 10th. The dealership was kind enough to deliver it to my house. After gearing up, I rode around my neighborhood at least 15 times, drove up my driveway (a hill) and parked it in the garage, no problem. The next day, I decided I would go for another spin around the neighborhood. Well, the bike idles rough because it is new, so I straddle walked it to the bottom of the driveway where I could see on-coming traffic, eased off the clutch and on the throttle and the thing stalled. It bucked the front wheel off the driveway and into the grass and started to fall to the left. There was nothing I could do except help it fall gently. I had to run up the street and solicit help from a stranger. He picked up, I sat on it, shaking for about five minutes, drove it around the block twice and pulled into the garage. The next day, I was still nervous from the drop the day before so I had my husband pull it down the driveway. I drove it around the block three times and went to pull it into the garage, stopped at the top of the hill and dropped it again. My husband picked it up and pulled it in the garage. I didn't ride for two days. I lost my nerve and thought I forgot all the training I had just learned. I spent the next two days beating myself up for panicking, and doubting myself. I returned to this website and to the materials I received during training, I bought a book, called Proficient Motorcycling by David Hough, and I checked out (on this site) how to pick up my bike if it falls again. I reset my mind and decided to take the bike out today. I started the bike, straddle walked to the bottom of the driveway, eased out on the road, circled the neighborhood smoothly and drove through my tiny town to the gas station, smiling the whole way. I drove 15 miles today, my first "real" trip. I realized that my biggest mistake was thinking that everything would come easily. I now know that being a proficient rider will be a lifelong process and that learning will occur all along the way and I am in no hurry. This was (is) a lifelong dream and I don't care how long it takes...the smile and feeling I have when I am riding is worth all the practice and work. VTwin Mama, thank you for this site and the testimonials from women around the country. Without them my beautiful bike would do nothing but sit in the garage, and I would be doing nothing but dreaming. Thanks again! – Denise (note from Mama: you are welcome! Isn't it amazing that caring and sharing can get so many of us past the hurdles that otherwise would keep us from our dream. Even now I read the newspaper advice columns and think, "how would I handle that situation?" It makes it think about larger issues but also "file away" in my brain solutions and sources for information for the future. You just never know! For the thousands of letters that have come in over the years at the VTwin Mama site, there are thousands more riders we've collectively helped and never hear from. The impact is awesome and humbling and gratifying and I'm grateful to be in position to make a difference along with the readers who write in! We're each a cog in this wheel!) More for Amy who is battling reoccurring urinary tract infections, worse on longer rides: I am hooked on your site. (hee, hee, hee!) Thank you for being a great venue for women riders (ok, all riders) to unite! I am new to riding, but not new to uti's. For Amy, I have battled frequent uti's for years for which the doctors have not been able to come up with a solution. In short I went to another practitioner who suggested I change my diet, specifically coffee. What, no coffee? Just for a few months. I substituted black and green tea (with milk, can't give up the latte idea). That did the trick. I am back to drinking coffee again and back off when my system starts to act up. Especially in the summer. Increasing water as Jennifer said will help as you decrease the irritants like coffee. If you don't like water, try Vitamin Water and gradually increase pure water intake. Just a suggestion from someone who is athletic and has been struggling with this for years. Your website has been a great motivator and resource for my new obsession. I just took a MSF Basic Rider Course in April and just because I passed the exam didn't mean I was ready for the road. I bought a Yamaha Silverado 1100 and was terrified. What was I thinking. Big bike for a beginner. But the bike felt stable and I could stand flat footed (5'4" so a tad vertically challenged). My resources really felt I would get the hang of it once I 'respected' the weight of the bike vs. being 'afraid." I read through your site and found out others have chosen this bike and love it. I was disappointed with my overall experience with the school, loved the motorcycle experience but knew I wasn't ready to head out. I decided to spend money and take the class again, this time from a different (and much better) school in May. Thank you Ride-Chicago, great course! I live in a very busy area and have to ride a steep and curvy ramp where I garage my baby. Another cage. A friend drove over to help me (motorcycle riding brings out the nicest and most helpful lot of people). Jitters and adrenaline were in my throat. He took me to a parking lot (hard to find where I live). It was small, so I practiced slow tight turns. Stops and turns and signaling. When he brought me back home, I watched how he rode the ramp up and down. While I had the courage, I asked to do it while I had supervision. I did it! I was so happy. Up and back down again (and the other two ramps needed to reach my parking spot). Yeah! Thank you Mama for all of your motivating postings. I have a long, long way to go and a lot to learn. Baby steps, but out of the cage! – Sandra in Illinois (note from Mama: it seems Amy has lots of sisters who understand what she's going through . . . it's an interesting discussion . . . and very informative. Congrats on your own excellent journey into the adventure of riding . . . it sounds like you're paying attention to the details, planning out your learning, not overdoing it, and realizing that you've time on your side! Good for you, you're being very VTwin Mama smart!) |
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